Little people belittle people. Great people make people feel great. – Rick Warren
The month of May is known as a mental health awareness month. Although we are in June does not mean that it cannot be discussed. Life has its ups and downs. No one is spared from problems and traumas. The way we react, behave, and approach only is different. The grass is always green on the other side. Hence it is said to be kind to everyone you meet as you do not know what battle they are facing within. Pandemic has been the highlight of 2020. In this phase, we all have had more feelings of negativity, anxiety, sadness, loneliness which all are causes of depression.
Most of the times the society or the people around us bring us down. I’m still not sure what is the outcome apart from giving the victim a sense of worthlessness. Growing up in a conservative society where we can’t do what our hearts say because we think of what people will think. Won’t people judge irrespective if you do as per the social norms or what your heart wants? So many dreams have been killed inside because of the fear of being the change to society. Breaking the rules for the sake to peruse what your heart wants is not wrong at all. We all have nosy relatives or people around who like to know everything in our life while giving us life advice which was never asked for. And there is a point where that advice has got on your nerves as if that will be the life-changing experience. For example, A person in their early 20s usually faces advice of getting married. If someone is married, then there is advice about starting a family. Whatever you do in life these nosy people are never satisfied and want more with high expectations. Can that affect a person’s mental health if they are constantly reminded of the things to do to survive in society?
There must be a way for a judgment-free society. Why can’t people prioritize their as well as other’s mental health?
I related nosy people to the character of Scar from the Disney movie, The Lion King, where Scar tries to manipulate and threaten Simba. Similarly the intentions are to break us emotionally with their words. Most of the time we get trapped with their words and taunts which hurt us making us sad. It can lead to a nervous breakdown as they bring us down. Instead of appreciating the achievement which we have accomplished, they keep reminding us of the things we should do or sometimes it is about our failures. We all do have freedom of speech but we should use our words wisely. Like the bullet from the gun which cannot be undone similarly the words spoken cannot be taken back.
Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” — Rupi Kaur
Celebrities have also faced depression. It’s been a common disease that everyone goes through. some are brave to accept and smile over the fact while overcoming it. While others can’t take it anymore and choose to end their life. It’s sad to see how famous people like Sushant Singh Rajput, Avicii, Chester Bennington, David Berman, etc have committed suicide. It’s high time we need to make mental health awareness a priority. On the brighter side, there are famous people like Lady Gaga, Sarah Silverman, Owen Wilson, Demi Lovato, J.K. Rowling, Dwayne Johnson aka The Rock, Deepika Padukone, Anushka Sharma, Shah Rukh Khan, etc who have confessed that they suffered from depression and they have overcome it.
The ones who go through an emotional breakdown may have behavior changes. The reasons can be internal or external which can vary from work pressure or major life changes or mishap which haunts. In case you or any close one is having a pattern of any of the below it is recommended to seek help immediately. They tend to avoid socializing and prefer being isolated in their house. Their eating and sleeping habits are tremendously affected.
I would recommend that someone who faces nervous breakdown must have a source to vent out. I am not a medical expert professional on mental issues but they should seek help. It is okay to feel not okay. It is not okay to stay that way in pain and misery. These tips might be helpful for how to help them:
- Listen without judging the person
- Be Kind
- Have empathy along with words of motivating
- Help them to cope
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the great make you feel that you, too, can become great. – Mark Twain
If each one of us use our words without having evil speech our world will be a better place. Also, most of the mind games to pull someone down will be ended forever. For someone who is going through this rough phase I would suggest the following:
- Always remember never to let anyone treat you badly. You are unique in your own ways. Appreciate yourself.
- Find a source to vent out either by talking to a friend or consulting a therapist.
- Meditate or do yoga where inner peace can be attained. Practicing breathing exercises will help to be grateful in life.
- Listen to your body and have a healthy diet along with forming proper sleeping patterns.
- Detox technology since most of the information makes us feel sad building negativity in our minds.
- Live in the present by appreciating what you have in life rather than being frustrated about what is uncontrollable.
I would conclude by saying that we all have to learn to deal with nosy people as well as cope up with negative feelings like a warrior in a battle. Be Strong!
Hope this article was helpful and informative. If you have any other recommendations which worked for you do mention in the comments section. Let us keep spreading positive vibes. Be healthy and safe. Stay tuned for a new post till next week!