“Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.” – Winnie the Pooh
There are hidden life messages in cartoons that we tend to ignore. Winnie the Pooh is the only one who can look cute while he thinks. In the end, Pooh chooses to let go of the worry not because he is a silly bear we have grown up with but he is wise to know to overthink won’t serve anyone. But when we try to imitate then we give a chance for negative thoughts to take control. Overthinking ruins friendships and relationships by creating problems you never had. It makes you feel like you’re stuck in one spot, and in case that you don’t act, it can enormously affect your everyday life. Overthinking can immediately put your health in danger.
We, humans, are said to be the smartest species, where only we can think. Our minds often start thinking about things and scenarios which are far from reality. It leads to overthinking and creating anxiety and worries. Overthinking is to consider something too much or for a long time. This can be either in a situation of decision making or could be insecurities where you cannot escape your head. Like rumination, overthinking goes over in the same cycle which can be exhausting for our mental health. Usually overthinking happens when we have too much free or ideal time when our mind wanders and starts making stories that won’t happen. It is seen that sleep is the first thing that is affected because of overthinking causing insomnia. The thoughts we get while going to bed are often a negative or unrealistic situation that troubles us in life. Our mind keeps repetitive asking the why and how questions either about the past or planning the future.
If we realized how powerful our thoughts are we would never think negatively again. Some energies control the world. We all have thoughts that are associated with strong intangible energy. We need to recognize our thoughts to transform energy and not overthinking. Being aware of our energy is where we cannot be held a victim of our thoughts. Our subconscious mind creates situations without even knowing. We give power to this inner world which dwells in our minds by assumptions. Overthinking is negative energy that ruins our happiness with doubts, non-existing obstacles, jealousy, and insecurities. It makes us feel low and frustrated.
Put your thoughts to sleep. Do not let them cast a shadow over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.”.— Rumi
Three Ways to get rid of overthinking:
- Manage your story –
We need to let go of the past. Our late-night thoughts are mostly regrets or chances we didn’t take, or how some scenario would have been better as per our happy ending in our head. To be honest, there is no perfect moment. We give them the power to things or situations for our happiness. If we are waiting for some particular scenario then are we getting things done? We need to focus on the emotions. It is okay to have those negative thoughts and overthinking, we all do and it is normal. We need to learn to live in the present without overthinking about the past or future. The only thing we have control over is the present and a choice to make where to focus our energy. The situation could make people bad, but it doesn’t last forever. We are always evolving in our life phases.
2. Tame the emotions –
It is important to recognize thoughts. We need to tell ourselves to stop. Focusing our attention on something else will end negative thoughts. Meditation can be helpful since it teaches us to live in the moment and let all the worries go away. We need to try finding a solution in case there is a problem and we keep overthinking all the consequences and the conclusions way before it happened. Remember there is a difference between fear and intuition. Overthinking is more of a fear of the unknown rather than having a gut feeling and still not listening to it. We need to tame our emotions and our thoughts.
3. Be Self-aware –
We should learn to have self-talk with ourselves. Spending too much alone time makes our minds think too much. We need to change our approach from this negative outcome to an opportunity of learning and experience. If we ask, “Will this matter to me 5 years from now?” Most of the times the answer is NO. Look at-in in this way, when was the last time we were overthinking in the past and today we are in a completely different and better phase. If we had not given our thoughts so much power to drain us, we could have had better sleep in the past. If it can work at that time, then why ruin our present by overthinking. Self-talk is the key as it allows us to have self-awareness of the situation. We need to learn to be more action-oriented instead of delaying the action. Also setting a time for decision making can be helpful so that we know what the outcome is instead of having n number of situations in our head.
“The more you rationalize, the more you move farther away from your authentic self.” ― Shannon L. Alder
In the end, I would conclude that we all must take care of our mental health and stop overthinking. Remember, do not be too hard on yourself and show some self-love towards yourself. If you have any more tricks to calm your mind from overthinking let me know in the comments sections. Also share it with your circle and whom you know might be an overthinking.
Hope this article was helpful and informative. If you have any other recommendations which worked for you do mention in the comments section. Let us keep spreading positive vibes. Be healthy and safe. Stay tuned for a new post till next week!